Yes! I am happy to marry any couple of legal age who wants to tie the knot.

Definitely! I am happy to work with you to create a custom ceremony that is authentic to you and your beliefs, whatever they may be.

Heck yes! I love respectfully learning about and incorporating new rituals and traditions in my ceremonies. I maintain an extensive library of them and am always learning about more. If it’s important to you, then it’s important to me. Just know that you’ll need to provide any props that may be required.

Depending on the package you select, I either start with an existing framework (for a semi-custom package) or a one-hour love story interview (for a custom package) where the two of you tell me about your relationship. I take lots of notes and turn that into a fully custom ceremony. When it’s ready, I send that to you to look over and edit. I want to make sure you have a ceremony you love just as much as the person you’re marrying, and generally find that if I’m good fit for you as an officiant, it won’t take more than three rounds of revisions to get to that point.

For a semi-custom package, I start with an existing framework that allows me to tell your love story in a little less detail and then include a beautiful metaphor or poem depending on what else you have in mind for the ceremony.

Part of the value of what I offer is that I am an encyclopedia of ceremony content (and a research nerd in general), so we can look at different frameworks, metaphors and poems depending on the vibe you want. Renaissance love poems? Epic rap battles? Sappy song lyrics? You got it!

If you want me to, then absolutely! Marriage license procedures vary drastically on a state by state basis, but I am here to walk you through every step of the way. Following your wedding, I will present you with a keepsake marriage certificate so you have a nice piece of paper to look at while your legal paperwork moves through the courts.

It can vary tremendously, but on average 15-20 minutes. The shortest ceremony I’ve been part of was 10 minutes and I wouldn’t recommend it. Ceremonies with multiple readings/speakers have clocked in around 45 minutes. I generally advise not to exceed that, because it can cause guest discomfort, especially if the ceremony is outdoors.

Yes, absolutely! If you want to write your own vows, then of course that’s what we’ll do! I’m happy to provide as much guidance as you would like, including some examples, but the good news is that there’s no right or wrong way to write them. Generally I suggest that 500 – 750 words is the sweet spot, but the sky is the limit.

As often as you like, within reason! We have some flexibility here, but usually my work flow goes: Intro call -> interview -> editorial discussion (if needed) -> ceremony finalized -> call to review plan for the day -> wedding. In the last months before the wedding, you can expect to hear from me more often, since I want you to feel totally comfortable before the big day.

I arrive at every ceremony venue no later than one hour before the ceremony begins. My goal is not only to give you a beautiful, memorable ceremony, but also to not add to the stress of the day! I want to be a vendor whose timeliness you can take for granted, and I like having enough time to connect with other vendors in advance (eg photographer, musicians/ DJ and coordinator, if relevant).

Married by Miller is a one woman enterprise, but I do have relationships with other trusted officiant groups. If any issues were to arise, there are three different people that I would be able to reach out to for last minute coverage. I am also happy to work with you to develop a backup plan if there are specific challenges you are concerned about accommodating. I’m not trying to give grandma covid!

I do not require or offer any premarital counseling as part of my standard package right now, but do have an option available for an additional fee if that is something you are interested in. That option includes a survey that both you and your spouse take separately, with a facilitated discussion afterward where we review the results.

My fee is all inclusive, with the exception of premarital counseling, traveling more than 75 miles from NW DC and attending your rehearsal.

Absolutely! I can talk you through the legal process in your home area, provide you with a list of necessary documents, and connect you with additional services related to this should you feel you need them.

While officiants are understandably shy about sharing their original work on the internet, this clip includes some of my work, starting at 45 seconds: